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We started to talk about being the curator of our own lives to create the life that we really love and to carve away things that do not serve us that we don’t want. So we can come to the diamond that is within all of us.

I continue on the note of love today. In a sense, love is energy, so is fear. When I first started studying with the Light Source Center and my meditation teacher, Natlie, she taught me that there are two main energies in this dual world. One is love, and one is fear. As human beings who have free will, we choose between the energy of love and fear every minute. We choose whether we act from love or fear.

When I first heard this concept, I didn’t understand what that really meant; being in the energy of love and not being in fear, and that fear is the absence of love, and how this all adds up, was confusing me. Many years of practice and understanding brought me to where I am today, which I’d like to share with you.

As human beings, I feel we are at the edge of a world where we have to make clear choices about which energy we will choose, which energy we allow to serve through us, and which energy we will serve.

I remember a book my husband recommended when we first met; it is called The Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz. I really appreciated this book because it is practical and talks about these two energies. I will quote a paragraph from chapter four, titled The Track of Love, The Track of Fear. I just picked a section somewhere in the middle. Here it goes:

“Love is based on respect. Fear doesn’t respect anything, including itself. If I feel sorry for you, it means I don’t respect you. You cannot make your own choices. When I have to make the choices for you at that point, I don’t respect you. If I don’t respect you, then I try to control you. Most of the time, when we tell our children how to live their lives, it’s because we don’t respect them. We feel sorry for them, and we try to do for them what they should do for themselves. When I don’t respect myself, I feel sorry for myself. I feel I’m not good enough to make it in this world. How do you know when you don’t respect yourself? When you say, poor me, I’m not strong enough. I’m not intelligent enough. I’m not beautiful enough. I cannot make it. Self-pity comes from disrespect.”

Then it continues, “love is ruthless. It doesn’t feel sorry for anyone, but it does have compassion. Fear is full of pity.”
It also says, “love is completely responsible. Fear avoids responsibility, but this doesn’t mean that it’s not responsible. Trying to avoid responsibility is one of the biggest mistakes we make because every action has a consequence. Everything we think, everything we do has a consequence. If we make a choice, we have an outcome or a reaction. If we don’t make a choice, we have an outcome or a reaction. We are going to experience the consequence of our actions in one way or another.”

I feel that the responsibility is to consciously choose whether our actions are based on fear or love. Love is compassion. Love is joy. Love is understanding. I may disagree with you, but I have compassion, respect your opinion and your point of view – that is, to operate from love. Fear wants to win and have control over the other, and it doesn’t respect. Fear can also disguise itself as sadness, depression, anxiety. They are all different manifestations of the energy of fear. In those moments of fear, we often feel that we are not good enough to have what it takes. This energy takes us down a rabbit hole.

The truth is that we all are spiritual beings living a human experience. In our infinite spirituality, our infiniteness, there is only love. This is who we are. This is who we are. Our human part has the free will to choose who we are. That’s our choice today, that was our choice yesterday, and that will be our choice tomorrow. What do we choose? Fear or love? Make a decision, make a decision for yourself, and see how the world changes around you. Change begins with us. Michael Jackson points to the “Man In The Mirror.” This is where we start, with the man in the mirror.

Let us take a deep breath before we close today.

And for a moment, I invite you to feel the expansion of love in your heart. Find your heart, feel its beating. You can even put your hand over your heart.

And feel the beat of your heart.

This is life.

Life was born from love. It’s yours, and it’s ours. It is our responsibility to make the best out of it.

And from that space, you can expand your love and understanding, and compassion to your home, community, and country.

And to the entire world.

Love is the energy that propels us forward, provides us growth, and “moves mountains.”

With much love and light to you,

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  1. Ana

    Viktoria, thank you for sharing this, and all the subtle and not-so-subtle ways in which fear and love are different and manifest differently in our lives. The quote you chose from The Mastery of Love especially is so insightful – I’ve been hearing so many great things about this book for a long time, so this is just more motivation to finally pick it up . Sending you lots of love! :)

    • Viktoria Seavey

      You are most welcome, Ana! Much love to you too <3 Let me know what you think about the book :)


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